The behind the scenes of the making of a Party Life + Style blog seems like it should be a constant world of glitter, rainbows, and kittens but the truth of the matter is, it’s not always glamorous.
As a blogger, it can be a bit much having people aware of your plans and what you’re working towards. You have to prepare for a lot of “Are you sure that is what you want to do?” or “That idea is crazy?” and sometimes just straight up haters. You also have to deal with people learning your “secret sauce” sort of speak. They want to know what you’re cooking up next in your business plans and how projects are coming along. Though this is to be expected, it can sometimes be overwhelming and even discouraging.
Recently, I was given feedback about my company and blog that I wasn’t sure was positive or negative. The short of the awkward story is, I came out of the situation realizing there are a bunch of stereotypes in the blogosphere about the type of blog one should run based on their appearance. Being a “trendy” female of color, people assume that I have a gossip blog, talk about ethnic hair products, or I must only write about the latest World Star video. While there is nothing wrong with blogs of these nature, it gives me a bit more work when representing my site and brand. This is something I accept and I am tough enough for the challenge.
Putting your dreams and hopes out there for people to bare witness to is forever terrifying but it comes with the territory. Learning to use the positive and negative to your benefit is a skill. Once you develop this skill, almost nothing can stop you.
My positive outlook towards the negative that comes with being my own boss didn’t come easy and to be honest probably never will. I have days where I wonder if I made the right choices and I am full of doubt. The trick is figuring out the healthiest way to deal with the problems so that you’re able to return back to your kick ass party that is life.
The insane amount of support I have received since the start definitely outweighs the negative. One of my favorite moments during my blogger break last month was receiving a “Member Appreciation” award at B:Hive’s 1 year anniversary party. It might sound sappy or crazy but I was on the verge of tears when handed this tiny plastic award. This tiny piece of plastic represents the supportive entrepreneurs that have become like family to me and have shown nothing but support for the beginning. It symbolizes love on a personal and professional level. It symbolizes every victory I achieve. It symbolizes a breath of fresh air when I am so mentally exhausted. It symbolizes my journey in designing a life that I adore.
Getting back to the day to day hustle as a blogger and party stylist has been intense and beautifully positive. I have YOU to thank and my massive support system that has come together fiercely and fabulously over the past year. I know for a fact I could not have made it this far (with a SUPER long way to go) on my own. I have nothing but gratitude and love for what the universe has been blessing me with. The future seems oh so glittery and bright for us all.
Tell me about some of your struggles and how you get over perceptions? What keeps your life party thriving? Thank you for allowing me to a sappy Sally from time to time. As always…
Stay sexy Gotham!
Photos taken by Anaise Prince
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