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Thanks but no thanks.

Thursday, January 4th, 2018

Hey there beautiful space creatures!

It’s a new year and 2017 in a lot of ways felt like the hangover of 2016. I think universally, we all feel that 2018 should be a superb year. A new year calls for fresh starts and getting rid of what no longer serves. As hard as this can be, this also includes people.

I recently had an overwhelming response to getting back into blogging. The majority of the people that have reached out to me have been positive. But as it goes, with the good sometimes comes the bad. I have received the occasional unsolicited advice or comment here and there. In the past, I would just rolled my eyes and took the advice or combat it with some witty words. But why should I? Why have I been wasting valuable energy on battles that wouldn’t be worth it in the long run? It’s 2018 and the time is now to stop the bullshit!

I am done with people that undermine or question my reality only to make me doubt myself. With those “friends” that often show their insecurities by telling you what you need to change or should be doing. These same people tend to find faults in your life and remember details of what you have going on to use against you in the future. All of this while saying “I am saying this as a friend” or “Not to be a bitch but…”.

I am over empty suggestions that I never asked for. Don’t get me wrong, some people make suggestions that are brilliant. I am always extremely grateful for some random good advice. But there is always that person,that has something to say about your ever move. That person that feels that everything that comes out of their mouth has a warning label. If you feel like everything you say comes with a disclaimer, more than likely you’re an asshole. It’s cool boo, just own it and realize that not all people can handle your “sass”. To these people, we can politely say “go fuck yourself!”

Someday we will grow old and reflect on our lives and we aren’t going to think fondly about those that doubted us. We aren’t going to think back to “Man, it was really great when that person told me how fat they thought I was.” or “WOW! I should have listened to that person’s suggestions on how I should be presenting myself”. Give no fucks right now and mean it.

Namaste bitches! Let’s make 2018 the year of YOU!

I’m back and I wasn’t abducted by aliens!

Saturday, December 30th, 2017

Why hello there, stranger! I’m back!

It’s been well over a year but I have returned! So I obviously need blogging 101 because I broke the first rule and just completely stopped. I’m sure some of you are like “Where the hell have you been and why did you stop blogging?!” I am going to keep it completely 100% with you guys and not give you some Dog Ate My Blog excuses. Life got tough and I basically hid from the world. I will do my best to spare you of the gruesome details but what had happened was…

For starts, over the last 3-4 years, I had a mystery health condition that was officially diagnosed last year as an autoimmune disease known as Leukocytoclastic Vasculitis. The symptoms to this disease started years ago but peaked hardcore in 2016. This disease for the most part left me without any confidence or motivation. It has definitely kept life interesting and I see it more as an awakening. While most autoimmune issues are still a mystery and “not curable” I find this to be complete bullshit. Most health problems are a product of the lives we lead and is just a matter of us listening to our bodies. My body was basically like  “Hey, you’re fucking up!” and i’m pretty grateful. While I still have a long road ahead of me, I am doing a TON better and on the mend.

During all of this medical mayhem, I took on a full time remote job in which I am still currently working. While I love what I do, I got WAY to comfortable and decided to put my dreams and personal goals on the back burner. It will always be easier to say “someday I will take over the world.”, but at some point you have to realize your intentions lack that action required for world domination. Over the last year, i’ve been brainstorming and coming up with a number of new and fun ideas, but with no action. If I am not going to treat my dreams with the respect they deserve, no one else will. Trust me when I say that this blog post you’re reading has come with a lot of blood, sweat and glittery tears. This is the first of many steps back into giving myself a chance.

Outside of the full time day job, health malfunctions, and self loathing I also found myself using this space to share content I just didn’t find fully exciting. Between managing social media for other projects and working on things that had little to do with what I was passionate in. I completely lost my vision. I got to a point where I thought no one would care about what I was putting out, there because I didn’t. I started to compare myself to others and think I would never be good enough nor would I ever “make it”. Well it took a year for me to wake the fuck up, and a lot has changed. I think getting space cooties helped me develop a layer of confidence I never thought to be possible. I’ve been on some next level Yoda-like positivity.

The majority of my healing will consist of me reconnecting with what I love. The moment you decide to focus on yourself and what you enjoy is the moment that you honor yourself. I forgot in the mix of doctor appointments and sleepless nights that I am so valuable. I never was one to care about what others think but as soon as you let down that protective self-love bubble the negative pours in. I am better than that. It feels so so good to be back in this space.

Why did I come back now? I simply needed to come out of hiding. I needed to be honest with where I have been. I needed to share my story without sugarcoating it—to express my discomfort and lack of confidence.

This is my post. My awakening.

I am writing this to get out of the habit of making things a bigger deal than they actually are. I am writing this to get the hell out of my own way. I accept my beautiful crazy and sometimes messy life. No one asked me to be perfect nor does anyone expect it and if they do, they can go fuck themselves.

This post is for me. This post is for you. I am here to invite you back into this beautiful community and into my life journey. Sometimes our best lives include rambling blog posts full of cliches and releasing them into the world because clicking “published” is better than perfect.

I am fucking back, y’all!

Stay sexy Gotham!

Hocus Pocus and Focus.

Monday, September 1st, 2014

Sprinkles and Booze Focus

Happy September!

From the start of September until New Year’s Eve life can be pretty wonderful! This is my favorite quarter of the year and the most magical. It gives me another chance to get my life in order before the end of the year. Four months can go by in a blink of an eye. The sooner you get focused the better.

To be honest, I didn’t have the best summer but I am coming out of the dark. At the start of the summer I decided to take a business workshop with the Women’s Business Development Council. It was one of the most exciting and major steps I could have done when investing in the future of Sprinkles and Booze. The workshop taught me the ins and outs of being a small business owner and how to focus. We all have big wonderful glittery dreams, but without focus it can seem sort of clumsy.

I would like to spend the next few months to regain my focus and rock out for you guys (and myself)! The workshop reminded me of why I adore being a blogger and party stylist. I have been clearing my mind and body and it’s pretty rad! Let’s rock out together. BRING IT SEPTEMBER!

Stay sexy Gotham!

Be guilty enough to change.

Friday, December 20th, 2013

Get fed up with yourself Sprinkles and Booze

Why hello there!

This post is going to be a heart to heart on a personal level. I believe every part of your life should be a full on party and part of the party is being real with yourself.

The other day, I found myself inhaling some greasy fast food within minutes. Hell, possibly seconds. I barely ate anything throughout the day and when I had a minute to eat I wanted something “delicious” and that would fill me up. Yes, the deep fried treats were tasty but I don’t even recall chewing. There wasn’t a spiritual or cultural connection with my food. Nothing says buzz kill like a meal that is not homemade, full of calories, grease, chemicals, and guilt.

Typically, when we feel guilty it’s rather easy for our thoughts to spiral out of control. I would find myself skipping meals or putting in longer time at the gym to make up for my slip up or just completely give up. It’s a ridiculous cycle and it’s played out. If there is no balance there is no order.

All I am sure of is, I am not living out my full life’s party. Being in a repeated cycle of lack of self control and damaging my health isn’t fully living. It’s like living a hangover.

I have been know to be a hypochondriac but I do have my fair share of health issues. I’m not going to sit here and list out all of my issues but to name a couple I suffer from severe allergies and eczema. I am at a point in my life where I have completely had enough.

I am ready to look at what is missing and figuring out why I remain stuck. I am researching and digging deep within my glitter covered soul to develop a long-lasting life/health plan for a party girl. Like all good things, I know it will take time, experimenting, a strong support system, and an open mind.

I want to develop a personal system that sets me up for success. I want my way of life to allow me to connect with my unique body and figure out what my body is telling me and what it needs less of and more of. I will make self-care a necessary practice while allowing myself to have the occasional “bad” food.

I plan on applying a rule of “weekend bad girl” that will allow me to not go completely Girls Gone Wild, but be okay with having the occasional junk food. It’s important to me not to let the guilt sabotage my progress. I need to stop promising myself that I will work out tomorrow and promise myself that I will make a strong effort to be the most festive and healthiest me I can be.

To get to this change, I will be making mental (and sometimes physical) notes of how I feel when I do certain things. It’s proven that the more productive and positive you are towards a goal the more results you will receive.

With a New Year, always comes new goals. We always want things to be different and better but there comes a time when you need to suck it up and figure out what you’re doing wrong. When figuring these things out, you must not punish yourself for the downfalls that occur, but realize why they happen and what you’re going to do to make it better.

My 2014 is going to be about growth and self worth. We are all worthy of our heart desires if we invest in ourselves. Investments don’t have to be unpleasant but about your way of life. Know what you deserve and where you can work harder.

What do you plan on doing to make your 2014 about compassion, self worth, and lots of laughs? How are you going to turn yourself into the connected and stunning party monster that is inside of you? The holidays are the perfect time to reconnect with yourself and loved ones, get ready to be honest with yourself and shine in 2014.

Stay sexy Gotham!

Welcome to the honey comb!

Friday, December 6th, 2013

Christmas Heads BHive Bridgeport Connecticut Sprinkles and Booze

Why hello there!

I took an unofficial mini break from blogging for about a week. With Thanksgiving and other holiday craziness, I needed to take a breather. I blame it on the boogie, or poor planning but more so the boogie.

the holidays BHive Bridgeport Connecticut Sprinkles and Booze

Man, do I have a whole bunch to get you guys caught up on and will be frantically blogging all weekend into next week. Thank goodness for my honey fix. I mean, I do love honey but in this case I am referring to The B:Hive. Being a member of a coworking space is probably one of the best things that has happened to me this year. Ever since i’ve started a company fueled on my hopes and dreams, I’ve needed the proper setting in which to keep me motivated. If you’re a veteran entrepreneur or new to the scene, a melting pot of great like minded people, brilliant environment, and fun is what is necessary for you to be successful. I promise!

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This is especially true since I am purging a ton of my belongings, packing the rest into boxes, and moving (just across town) in a few months. My life has been completely all over the place but knowing that I can escape, collect myself, and work in my office away from home is such a great feeling.

Being a member of a dope coworking space sure as hell beats going to a coffee shop. Don’t get me wrong, I love coffee shops for playdates and…well coffee but you can spend hours in a coffee shop surrounded by townies and hipsters, spend $5-$15, and leave feeling like you still have so much to do. Plus, it’s not an office. If you work for yourself I am sure the last thing you want to do is go to a coffee shop to meet with a client or a sponsor. Unprofessional and unclassy!

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The amount of amazing people I meet in my shared office space is intense and so wonderful. It’s refreshing to work alongside people from different industries and backgrounds. I’ve also met folks in which I can collaborate on future projects with. It’s a melting pot of coolness that you wouldn’t necessarily get while working in your PJs at home. In most coworking space, you build a community in which you can have fun and also stay focused.

Anyway, I didn’t mean for this to be an on going rant and rave about my office away from home…or did I?!  I have been here for hours today working on my business ventures of Sprinkles and Booze for 2014 and feel more motivated and blessed than ever. I met some rad new people, listened to some Radiohead, and got a ton of work done today. I feel like it was a Friday well spent and I look forward to many more days of business growth and adventures at The B:Hive.

Lots of updates coming within the next week! Guard your loins, hold on to your knickers, and as always…

Stay sexy Gotham!