Posts Tagged ‘self’

Be guilty enough to change.

Friday, December 20th, 2013

Get fed up with yourself Sprinkles and Booze

Why hello there!

This post is going to be a heart to heart on a personal level. I believe every part of your life should be a full on party and part of the party is being real with yourself.

The other day, I found myself inhaling some greasy fast food within minutes. Hell, possibly seconds. I barely ate anything throughout the day and when I had a minute to eat I wanted something “delicious” and that would fill me up. Yes, the deep fried treats were tasty but I don’t even recall chewing. There wasn’t a spiritual or cultural connection with my food. Nothing says buzz kill like a meal that is not homemade, full of calories, grease, chemicals, and guilt.

Typically, when we feel guilty it’s rather easy for our thoughts to spiral out of control. I would find myself skipping meals or putting in longer time at the gym to make up for my slip up or just completely give up. It’s a ridiculous cycle and it’s played out. If there is no balance there is no order.

All I am sure of is, I am not living out my full life’s party. Being in a repeated cycle of lack of self control and damaging my health isn’t fully living. It’s like living a hangover.

I have been know to be a hypochondriac but I do have my fair share of health issues. I’m not going to sit here and list out all of my issues but to name a couple I suffer from severe allergies and eczema. I am at a point in my life where I have completely had enough.

I am ready to look at what is missing and figuring out why I remain stuck. I am researching and digging deep within my glitter covered soul to develop a long-lasting life/health plan for a party girl. Like all good things, I know it will take time, experimenting, a strong support system, and an open mind.

I want to develop a personal system that sets me up for success. I want my way of life to allow me to connect with my unique body and figure out what my body is telling me and what it needs less of and more of. I will make self-care a necessary practice while allowing myself to have the occasional “bad” food.

I plan on applying a rule of “weekend bad girl” that will allow me to not go completely Girls Gone Wild, but be okay with having the occasional junk food. It’s important to me not to let the guilt sabotage my progress. I need to stop promising myself that I will work out tomorrow and promise myself that I will make a strong effort to be the most festive and healthiest me I can be.

To get to this change, I will be making mental (and sometimes physical) notes of how I feel when I do certain things. It’s proven that the more productive and positive you are towards a goal the more results you will receive.

With a New Year, always comes new goals. We always want things to be different and better but there comes a time when you need to suck it up and figure out what you’re doing wrong. When figuring these things out, you must not punish yourself for the downfalls that occur, but realize why they happen and what you’re going to do to make it better.

My 2014 is going to be about growth and self worth. We are all worthy of our heart desires if we invest in ourselves. Investments don’t have to be unpleasant but about your way of life. Know what you deserve and where you can work harder.

What do you plan on doing to make your 2014 about compassion, self worth, and lots of laughs? How are you going to turn yourself into the connected and stunning party monster that is inside of you? The holidays are the perfect time to reconnect with yourself and loved ones, get ready to be honest with yourself and shine in 2014.

Stay sexy Gotham!
latanya

Snowy nights and great conversations.

Saturday, December 29th, 2012

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So, i’m snowed in on a Saturday night. It can sound like a dream to some and a nightmare to others. I took it upon myself sit alone and have a mini proper freak out about my life being a late 20 something. It comes with the territory.

This mini freak out and some great conversation with others made me realize something. If I am complaining and freaking out about the same exact things I was say…a month ago, am I only attracting what I fear to myself? After a month, am I just whining and freaking out for the sake of doing so? I’ve been taught that you receive what you think about the most and i’ve had living proof of this over and over within my life.

My fears all lie within the fact that I am living my dreams. I am shooting for the stars blindly and ready to work my ass off. I am sure it sounds exciting from the outside but trust me, it’s terrifying. I am in love with the direction my life is going in but at the same time, it’s like jumping into the ocean without knowing how to swim.

Instead of whining, I WILL get off my bum and make my life completely worth living. Why should I stress and worry about failure when I should be excited about the life in which I am desiring. I will have the career I desire, I will travel and make new exciting friends while making new adventures with old friends, I will help others realize their worth and how beautiful and action packed the world really is. I want to live my life waking up daily and smiling at myself in the mirror because life is wonderful and worth it.

We all can live exactly the way we want right now. There are no excuses. Fear is an asshole and don’t let it get in the way of what you desire. Manifest the very best for yourself because you are the most stunning. Your energy continues to make the world wonderful in dark times and all of the time.

Keep shining my little bunnies,
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Sprinkles vs Sparkles.

Friday, December 7th, 2012

I would like to thank all of you that has been on this insanely vibrant, amazing, fun-tastic journey of being a blogger thus far. Today marks the one month anniversary of my blog and I am ever so grateful for all of the wonderful people in my life and the unbelievable support.

I couldn’t think of a better day to introduce Sprinkles vs Sparkles. This will be something I will post weekly (typically at the end of the week). It’s sort of a gratitude list on steroids. I will post all of my sprinkles, which will be things i’ve come across during the week that I fell in love with. I will then follow it up with all of my sparkles which will be things I am particularly proud of, excited about doing, or things I have achieved.

With that said, let’s get this party started!

Sprinkles

 I LOVE when couples take adorable and creative photos to document event in their lives. This couple had the cutest most amazing series of photos documenting how a baby is formed.

♡ Something I am probably going to buy if I get a bunch of extra Christmas money.

This necessary awesomeness.

 

Such an amazing conversation (and funny) between Joseph Gorden-Levitt and Rainn Wilson. Super inspiring.

Mr.Watts gets it right every time. I would SO buy this car because of him.

Greatest chase of all time.

 Loved these helpful freelancing tips.

 This gift guide to help us crazy busy unorganized people get it together. It was posted on the wonderful Crown and Glory blog.

 A really amaze-balls episode of The Walking Dead. Sadly, they will be testing the world’s patience because it will be continued in February 2013.

 This how to guide on making giant ass beautiful flowers.

 

Sparkles

♡ I’m in love with the mini playdates I’ve had with friends this week. There is nothing more magical than getting together and catching up with people you adore.  Remembering that I have these amazing shoes♡ I made it a point to smile at every stranger I saw all week. To my surprise no one was weirded out and smiled back. ♡ Sent out endless e-mails for future projects for Sprinkles and Booze along with my other ventures. Had a brilliant amount of good responses so there should be some exciting things in the near future so stay tuned.  Did tons of research about proper finance planning and feeling more like an adult now. ♡ I made a fantastic juice similar  to this. It was to DIE for. I want to juice everything now.   Found out I will be have Creative Suite soon on my new Macbook Pro so loads of photos and design projects will be coming to a blog near you.   Watched countless hours of The Twilight Zone while eating cherries. ♡ Being reunited with this ring ♡ The unreal amount of love (tough and sweet) that I’ve received within my first month of this fantastic venture. I am so grateful and proud of how things are coming along and I seriously love all of you bunnies for life. 

 

Finding out that this party is happening in my life this weekend. CAN NOT WAIT!

xo, a go go bye!
Latanya Rene

This used to be a fun house but now it’s a sad house.

Wednesday, November 28th, 2012

Sadhouse by Sam Rennocks

Somewhere down the line, most of my guy friends decided I was the go to female to ask about relationships. I don’t know if it’s because I like superheroes and zombies, but my opinion definitely matters to my dude-bros.

Lately there has been an overwhelming number of guys that are having women issues in my life. I don’t know if it’s something in the air or if women are getting crazier but a lot of nonsense has been taking place. I mean complete nonsense! Chicks getting back with their guys only to mess with their heads, asking to go to fancy restaurants with no intentions of being with the guy, the list is endless and not unheard of. Us ladies tend to have evil moments but it doesn’t make it okay.

Being that I am female, I do love being spoiled and attention but I also like to be an equal. For the countless amount of times that I have heard a woman talk about how a guy is an ‘asshole’, we need to also take note of our actions and intentions.  That guy has probably dated and had shit experiences in the past and expecting history to repeat itself. This is what leads the guy to be said ‘asshole’. Or he could be an actual asshole and in that case, keep it movin’!

The largest bit of advice I can give anyone, male or female is COMMUNICATE. When you are hiding things, and not being honest, and plotting and just carrying on with complete fuckery it’s not benefiting you. Just because someone bought you an expensive gift or meal, that doesn’t define you or make you a better person. Talk about how you feel about the person (or don’t feel about the person) and find that person that suits you. It’s about complimenting one another not completing one another.

Really love zombies,

Latanya Rene

Envy killed the Elephant : Part II

Wednesday, November 21st, 2012

Photo by LiLou 

When I think of jealousy, I tend to think of evil queens and witches in fairytales. That evil queen would have never poisoned Snow White unless she wasn’t completely jealous. I now bring you the follow up on my rant about jealousy in which I began last week. I feel like a lot of folks hold on to things that are completely out of their control (and sometimes within their control). I hope these tips in which I use are helpful. There is nothing more troublesome than letting negative fester.

We are trained to be competitive. To always have the best, biggest, and greatest. Because this is something we are taught very early on, it’s hard not to compare ourselves to others. The reality is everyone has flaws. How many times have you hung out with someone you thought ‘had it all’ and realized that person has a lot of hidden struggles themselves? Most of these ‘perfect’ people have perfected the concept of hiding their flaws. Instead of worrying about what you don’t have, worry more about your positive traits. What do you bring to the table? What skills do you have? How awesome is your collection of comic books or fashion magazines? Once you bring the attention back to the positive, your confidence typically will grow. That positive energy will assist with manifesting other great things that you’re longing for. You’re sure to get fantastic results.

You can’t have jealous feelings without the assistance of someone else. With that said, a lot of angry jealous energy comes from a lack of making yourself happy. That might sound completely nuts but when you think about it, if you’re looking for attention from someone else it’s possible you can fill that ‘need’ on your own. Take a look at yourself for a moment. What is  making you feel as if you need that other person to make you ‘happy’? It could be as easy as doing an activity that makes your happy. Always look at your true intentions and what will really make you giddy like cray-cray happy.

Do the complete opposite of what a jealous person would do. When you feel jealousy taking over, don’t assume, give the silent treatment, slash tires, throw things, angry text, drop obscure and sarcastic hints, Facebook/Twitter stalk, send horrible things to their house, throw out their belongings, or give them things baked with poison. Try what a trusting sane person would do instead. If you’re upset because your friend is hanging out with someone else, recommend a good place to eat or a great movie that just came out. If someone else gets the job that you want, be nice instead of being sneaky. Congratulate the person and offer to help them be successful. Only good things can come from this! The more good you put into the universe the more good will come to you. Obviously, you have to mean what you’re saying so stop being a jerk. Envy is an ugly beast…no one wants to be an ugly beast.

Photo by Evie L. Wray 

Recognize the bitch that is paranoia. Jealousy causes you to react to a fantasy scenario that’s all in your mind. Stick to the positive fantasies, those tend to have better outfits and a way better outcome. The bad things you’re making up in your head may never come to play. If they do, shit happens! You’re a tough cookie and you can handle it. You should develop a great support system of friends and family. This support team of awesomeness will have your back and help you move on to be a better person.

Don’t lose sight of your feelings. Always, always, always listen to your gut but if you start feeling jealous, your emotions are telling you something is happening. Something that you’re simply just not okay with and that’s fine. Figure out what the real issue is behind these feelings and most of the time you’ll realize what needs to be corrected to make you feel better. Ultimately, jealousy is a fear-based behavior. What you can end up doing is creating a situation where bad things could happen. You think negative, you bring negative. It is science and it’s also ironic.  

Working to never be an ugly beast,

Latanya Rene